Friday, May 8, 2009

"Your Own Children"

Throughout this adoption process many people have asked us why we don't have our "own children". The questions and comments never seem to end, "Have you tried to have your own children?", "Do you want your own children someday?", and probably the most painful "When are you going to have your own children?" I think most people just assume adoption is second best and we are really longing for children by birth instead.

However, these comments and their hidden meanings are not at all how we feel. We as adoptive parents are just as excited as any parent who is pregnant and dreaming of the day they will see their child face to face. Our child is just as real as one that is growing in a Mother's womb. Our child is growing in our hearts and daily we dream of them and wonder what they will be like. We wonder will we have a boy or girl, will they be shy or outgoing,and what kinds of things will they like to do? We wonder what they will be when they grow up and we pray they come to know and love Jesus at an early age.

Other people have also been dreaming of our child as this past week we received our child's first gift. As Mom Johns was shopping it suddenly occured to her she is going to be a grandmother and her daughter is carrying a baby in her heart! So just as she would be out buying outfits if we were traditionally pregnant, she decided it was time to buy stuff for the baby that is growing in all of our hearts! And here came to be their fist gift along with a baby bottle fille with change they have collected to help bring their grandchild home. This gift was more special than they would ever know!




We also were blessed with more baby bottles filled with change from my friend Tanaya and all the nurses on her unit at the hospital.She has been such a fundraising help to us and support of our adoption! We are so thankful to her and all the other nurses generous hearts!

And to help bring home their first Great grandchild, Grandma and Grandpa Heidebrink sent us a very generous check. It said "To Bring Home our Greatgrandchild". As we thanked them for the money, Grandma said "Don't worry about it, its for my grand baby!" We just praise God for their maturity and faith and support of our Adoption! We couldn't ask for more supportive grandparents.

Adoption is just as real and exciting as being pregnant and having a child by birth. It is also just a much of a miracle.

So as not to offend but educate about what adoption means let us share one of our favorite quotes from the book "Cross Cultural Adoption".

"By regaling us with anecdotal stories of women who found themselves pregnant shortly after adopting, you are somehow demoting the wonderful thing that has just happened to us to a second rate experience- as if she is just something to distract us until the "real" thing comes along or a means to a more desirable end."

"Lift up your eyes round about and see; They all gather together, they come to you.
Your sons will come from afar, And your daughters will be carried in the arms." Isaiah 60:4

4 comments:

greg & amy said...

what a beautiful posting! Greg and I enjoy reading your blog. Great pic of the two of you, too!

Lauren @ mercy(INK) said...

love this post, jolene! very well said... thanks for sharing :o) we went to "ten thousand villages" yesterday, an amazing little store where all the proceeds go directly back to women in third world countries who make the products. anyway, i had hoped to find something ethiopian for little heidebrink, but they didn't have anything from ethiopia right now. we'll be on the lookout ;o) love you both!

E. Gatchek said...

Jolene & Jon, your blog is great. it's very informative and gives insight into what you two are doing. Do you have a choice as to whether it is a boy or a girl? You two are going to make great parents! May god guide you in the rest of the process and lead you to what he wants. Miss and love you lots.

Crossville said...

Beautiful! I have a quote on my wall - "Every child that is in your life, every child that crosses your path is a divine appointment, one to lift them up or destroy them. Children are too immensely loved by God to be ignored."

You and Jon remind me of Jesus saying, "Let the little children come to me."

I am so thankful as your baby is on it's way, we know and trust that our Heavenly Father has baby Heidebrink in His loving arms.

Thank you so much for sharing your story of expectancy with us all.

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